Its so NOT OK to feel lonely in relationship

[Random Rant post]

So I finally blurted out everything last night. Thinking about it; I don't even regret a single things I confessed to him. He's like 50% get what I mean; and another 50% blur. All the while, through our two separated life together, we are both busy. Each occupied with works and activities. But his; is a never-ending super-pack busy-ness. Its not that I don't understand his schedule but its the way he want his schedule to be that I dislike the most. Guy is super ego on things like this. I was just asking him to have a least 1 - 3 hours times that he mostly spend either gym or jogging and replaced it to spend it with me; in a fucking week! But he said he can't. Oh well, at least I warned him the consequences. When I said that I don't feel our relationship same as previous, he asked me "What's wrong with me? What did I do?" The obvious answers are already been blurted out. I don't why I feels so seriously pissed when I already tell him what's the problem and then he answered me "What can I do? I can't do anything." Its your fucking schedule, get a hold on it. 

Because I can feel myself pulling off out of this relationship, that's why I thought this problem is much bigger. But being a guy, he definitely think that this is just a random debate on stuffs we are not agreed on. Come on! Telling me that you're also thinking of me when you're busy? Man, everyone can do that. You don't talk. But show it that you're thinking of me. Make time for me. Make time for us. Is it really hard? 


Well, accuse me of being selfish.
I am being like this because I still fight on for this things that we've shared for 3 years plus.
Pardon me for being not-so-understanding, its much better for me to tell than for me to leave; just like that. Without a single word.    

Comments

  1. I totally get what you're going through and it's def. not easy.

    Sometimes guys just don't get it and need someone to bluntly tell them because well, guys are "stupid" and can't ever take nudges or hints >,<
    Even if you did tell him straight up, he might not get it because the relationship has been on his type of schedule for a while now so, he probably doesn't get why you're upset.

    I would def. keep telling him how you feel everyday and see how he reacts but, you should really implement your feelings on him to consider or he might just forget or brush it off.

    I really hope things work out for the both of you <3


    xoxo
    EV
    eviiarty.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi EV,

      Thanks you for your sweet comment! Yes, I keep telling him about it and I will see what he's going to do next. Maybe he thinks that this isn't serious at all but I thinks the opposite. Hopefully, we'll manage to overcome these.

      Hugs,
      Fay

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  2. Wow girl!
    Reading your post here hits me right to the heart. Our situation is totally the same. I really hate it when a guy obsessed with something or totally focused on one thing particularly. It is when the moment of the loneliness comes and the word 'I don't have time.' or 'Not today.' blurts out from his words...

    Get enough of it so I did the same exact thing to him when he kind of searched for me. Hurts though but at least he knows the feeling of being lonely in a relationship.

    liawatiuret.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Shellia,

      I don't know how you've overcome it but I hope I can too. Yes, the feelings is unavoidably very painful. The thoughts of giving up is there but I'm not that kind of person. Hopefully he'll understand soon and lets thing be OK. *finger's crossed*

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  3. Sweets, you're not being selfish. Of course, after 3 years, your relationship won't be the same as it was when you first started dating. You will spend less time together, if only because you got comfortable and don't need the constant confirmation of each other's feelings.

    But that doesn't mean you don't need any confirmation at all. There are two people in this relationship, it has to work both ways. Both him and you have to be happy. You can't expect him to hang around all day every day (which I don't think you do, after all, you said you understand him wanting to keep his hobbies), and he can't expect you to just be there, waiting on hold for when he has a moment of free time for you.

    I think what's best for you guys to do, is to talk about it. You should tell him you want to go on a date sometime, or just hang out together on a regular basis, and then put your schedules together and work out a moment to spend some quality time with each other. A relationship doesn't build itself, it's a thing you have to work on, spend time on, and put effort into!

    I hope the two of you can work it out. Just remember to stay calm, don't get angry, and listen to each other. Good luck Fay xxx

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    1. Hi Bibi,

      How are you? Thanks you very much for leaving a sweet and supportive comments here. Yes, I couldn't agree more on how comfortable we've been in the relationship. Maybe I gave in so much that he thought I really didn't care if he's going to makes other things as his first priorities. *sigh* I do wish I had told him earlier on.

      Yes, we're talking about it. But I'm not sure if things are getting better or worse. I'm just hoping for the best. At least I tried.

      Thanks you for the sweet encouragement dear.

      Hugs,
      Fay

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  4. I clearly understand how you feel. Guys are ego being.

    Be strong okay girl :)

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    1. Hi Dear, Thanks you~ Yup, they're just being ego so they won't be mark as 'sentimental' person by their friends. Pft. Anyway, everything is better now. We've discussed it and pass it.

      xoxo

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